So, this morning it was brought to my attention by someone who read my blog post from yesterday, that the post was “offensive to a lot of people who can’t have children, or are childless by choice.” This was juuuust the tip of the iceberg.
First off, I am saddened and quite frankly, shocked that this was how my post came across to this reader. I stated in the post that it was not meant to offend or single out anyone or any single incident in my life. I know that my little disclaimer doesn’t prevent people from being offended or sharing personal opinions. I just wanted to come and clarify, for lack of a better way to put it, that I meant no harm.
I always post with the best of intentions, while keeping in mind that I want to stay true to myself and be authentic. It has taken me many years to realize that I should just do what I love and be me! Now that I’m actually doing that I feel a bit taken aback.
Second, I was not aware that a single reader could speak for ALL who are childless, by choice or otherwise. I felt it unfair to have one person make such a blanket statement for a group of people who may have differing opinions than the one they tried to present to me via message.
Let me include that this person is childless, as I’m sure you could have guessed. There is nothing wrong with deciding that having children isn’t for you. There is also a countless amount of people who struggle to have a child, which I most definitely sympathize with.
I am honestly hurt that someone could say that my post was “a scathing vent of why my time is more important than any of my childless friends.” Let’s be clear here….EVERYONE’S time is important and I am not saying that my worth is more than someone who is without children. That couldn’t be furthest from the truth! The people who really know me well know that I am a good person who would never claim superiority because I am a mother. True friends are people who will seek to understand.
My post was meant to humor those who do have kids and help them see that as parents, we all go through growing pains. Yes, I realize that when I chose to start blogging that others would give their personal opinions, and that’s great. This is a discussion board of sorts, and I’m glad this person messaged me because I can always learn something from these kinds of interactions. What I think is a bummer is that the message also affirmed that there are people who are not willing to have a dialogue, and will cut you out.
The hurtful message assumed so much wrong about me and the point I was trying to convey. Since I have a blog that revolves around being a mother, fitness, cooking and family (all things I love), am I not able to talk about those things for fear of constantly “offending” someone else who has a differing opinion? So, now am I an insensitive person because I talk about being a mother?? Am I not allowed to talk about the role that has changed my life, just because I’m afraid I will hurt the feelings of someone who is struggling to become a mother? That sounds pretty ridiculous to me, especially considering it was not easy for me to become pregnant.
I will continue to write about things that interest me, things I’m passionate about and yes, I will absolutely write about what it’s like having a child! Blogging will always invite opinions and discussions, some of which might be hard to accept. In turn, since this is my space to share my opinions, you now know my opinion of the message I received. As a side note, this was the only negative commentary I received on yesterday’s post. I received many in support of what I wrote and thanking me for being open and honest. I’ll never please everyone, so it’s best if I just come to terms with that now!
So here it is….I’m warning all of you now that if you don’t like what I write or if it’s offensive, you can stop reading my posts just like this individual did. We all have a choice. 🙂