As parents, it seems like Craig and I have finally fully adjusted to life with a little one and now we are adding a little sister to the mix. Yes, we know we will have to referee many backseat battles and likely have to buy two of everything when it comes to toys – imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, of course! But what we are most excited for is to witness Gialina and her little sister play with one another and embrace each other in warm hugs.
When Gia was born I realized I would do anything to protect her. I hope and pray that Gia will experience a similar feeling growing up with a younger sibling. When baby girl number two comes along and starts to become more independent, our children will learn how to split the last chocolate chip cookie that I made, and hopefully learn how to divide TV time when their favorite show is on. Obviously these little lessons will take time and there will be bumps in the road, but they will come in handy when they are in school.
Craig and I both grew up with siblings and we couldn’t imagine not giving Gia that same gift. She might not see it that way in the beginning, but as already experienced by Craig and I, having a built in “playmate” and lifelong friend is wonderful. There won’t be an urgent need to schedule playdates when Gia’s best friend is in the next room. I know that some of this talk of being best friends can be wishful thinking on my part. I am fully aware that siblings fight and sometimes they fight a lot. I’m also keen to the idea that we are going to raise our children with a strong moral compass, so with that, we believe that our children will love and respect one another for a lifetime. It’s all about setting a good example and instilling proper values.
In Gia’s almost two years of life, we’ve witnessed such empathy, compassion, humor and intelligence on the daily. Whether it’s mastering a puzzle or learning to hit a plastic golf ball, we know that Gia will teach her younger sister so many things. In the same regard, as an older sibling she will learn a lot of patience from our new addition.
As I’ve gotten older, I share so many of my thoughts and problems with my younger brother, Zach. I hope that Gia and her sister will turn to each other for guidance, just as their funky Unkie and I do.
Pictured here is my brother Zach explaining the finer points of surfing to Gia. I can’t wait for her to know the bond siblings can share.
As sister’s they will celebrate so much together – from birthdays to a walk down the aisle, I hope they stand by each other’s side through all of life’s monumental moments. With those good times also comes tough times – bruised knees, a less than perfect grade, a broken heart. No matter the problem, siblings should be there to dry each other’s tears and act as a shoulder to lean on.
(Thinking about this next part makes me emotional and teary eyed.) Above all else, we are making our family a family of four because we want Gia to have someone to grow old with. Friends come and go, but family is forever. Unfortunately our parents aren’t able to physically be around forever, so having another sibling ensures that Gia will have a blood connection long after Craig and I are gone.
I’m aware that not everyone wants another child, let alone one child. (I’ve addressed that in my blog before.) I try to be sensitive to the fact that everyone is free to live their life exactly how they wish, with child or without. I also know that those who want kids may have difficulty conceiving and may never experience what Craig and I have. I feel great pain for those who want kids but are unable, and I have great respect for those who choose to live their life without children, as these are very personal things. All I know for myself is that I would absolutely regret not having a second child. I feel like I would be robbing Gia of something that I know is so amazing. This is why we are adding another girl to our gang.
Soon Gia will be picking flowers with her built in bestie.
Sidenote: I know my blog invites opinions of others, but I want to remind everyone to be kind. By no means do you need to agree with any of my opinions, let’s just be respectful of one another.
I’d love to hear from friends and strangers alike – Why have you decided to have a another child? Feel free to comment here and don’t forget to follow more of my adventures on my Instagram page, @mrsbennigson.